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April 7

Quote of the Week

"Put the magnifying glass down and pick up the mirror."

Oh, how I love focusing on you. If you would only stop doing this or that, or if you’d start doing this or that, then finally, maybe, I’d be happy. Relieved of the responsibility of self, it was so easy to be critical, resentful, and dependent on you. “If you only knew what you were doing to me. If you loved me, you wouldn’t act this way. Don’t you care about me?” These were my constant thoughts.

When I first entered the program, my sponsor told me something shocking—he told me that my happiness and well-being were my responsibility. He told me it was and always will be up to me to make my life enjoyable and safe. “But what happens when they do this, or they do that?” I protested. “Put down the magnifying glass and pick up the mirror,” he told me.

It took me awhile to see the profound wisdom of this new way of thinking. Once I put the focus on me, I regained the power to influence and direct my life and happiness. If I spend my time focusing on trying to control others, then I will forever be a victim. But when I place the power and responsibility where I do have some control—over my own life—that’s when I begin to recover and regain hope. It’s about the mirror, not the magnifying glass, today.