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bluidkiti · 04-25-2023, 07:27 AM

April 25

There is luxury in self-reproach. When we blame ourselves, we feel no one else has a right to blame us.

~Oscar Wilde

Just as we don't have the right to judge someone else, we don't have the right to judge ourselves. Our addictive script in the past was that when we did something we felt ashamed of, we judged ourselves guilty. All too often, we then punished ourselves.

Was that behavior an expression of our shame and sadness because we're addicts? Punishing ourselves won't stop the addiction; loving ourselves will.

We are grateful that our recovery has taught us the difference between guilt and shame. Guilt lets us feel remorse and sadness when our actions violate our values. Guilt helps us know when we've acted badly. But shame leaves us hopeless. To give in to shame and self-hatred only harms us and intensifies the power of the addiction. There is a better way, and that's to learn to love ourselves.

Higher Power, please step in when I feel the urge to take things out on myself. May your love for me teach me to love myself instead.

Today's reading is from the book Answers in the Heart

04-25-2023, 07:27 AM	#25
bluidkiti Administrator Join Date: Aug 2013 Posts: 75,789	April 25 There is luxury in self-reproach. When we blame ourselves, we feel no one else has a right to blame us. ~Oscar Wilde Just as we don't have the right to judge someone else, we don't have the right to judge ourselves. Our addictive script in the past was that when we did something we felt ashamed of, we judged ourselves guilty. All too often, we then punished ourselves. Was that behavior an expression of our shame and sadness because we're addicts? Punishing ourselves won't stop the addiction; loving ourselves will. We are grateful that our recovery has taught us the difference between guilt and shame. Guilt lets us feel remorse and sadness when our actions violate our values. Guilt helps us know when we've acted badly. But shame leaves us hopeless. To give in to shame and self-hatred only harms us and intensifies the power of the addiction. There is a better way, and that's to learn to love ourselves. Higher Power, please step in when I feel the urge to take things out on myself. May your love for me teach me to love myself instead. Today's reading is from the book Answers in the Heart __________________ "No matter what you have done up to this moment, you get 24 brand-new hours to spend every single day." --Brian Tracy AA gives us an opportunity to recreate ourselves, with God's help, one day at a time. --Rufus K. When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on. --Franklin D. Roosevelt We stay sober and clean together - one day at a time! God says that each of us is worth loving.