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bluidkiti · 04-11-2022, 11:18 AM

April 11

Quote of the Week

"Honesty without compassion is hostility."

Before recovery, I had a lot of resentments I was unaware of, and the burden of these buried feelings was heavy. They were often expressed in a passive-aggressive way when I gave my opinion or offered unasked-for advice. I thought I was just being honest, but I’ve come to see I was often lashing out and being mean. Unaware of the impact of my “honesty,” I unintentionally hurt a lot of people.

When I started working the program, I discovered a tool for uncovering, discovering, and eventually discarding these resentments. It’s called a fearless and thorough Fourth Step. When I started writing my inventory, I imagined I had one or two resentments at most, but soon found that I had hundreds. I almost needed a whole notebook just for my family! No wonder I was so spiteful.

By working the rest of the Twelve Steps, I’ve been able to let go of these resentments, and something miraculous has happened: I’ve developed compassion for others and for myself. Freed from petty resentments and imagined wrongs, I now identify with the struggles we all share as we make our way through life. I’m not better nor worse than anyone else. Newfound compassion now allows me to be open with and thus deeply connected to others. Today, my honesty is based on true compassion.

04-11-2022, 11:18 AM	#15
bluidkiti Administrator Join Date: Aug 2013 Posts: 75,794	April 11 Quote of the Week "Honesty without compassion is hostility." Before recovery, I had a lot of resentments I was unaware of, and the burden of these buried feelings was heavy. They were often expressed in a passive-aggressive way when I gave my opinion or offered unasked-for advice. I thought I was just being honest, but I’ve come to see I was often lashing out and being mean. Unaware of the impact of my “honesty,” I unintentionally hurt a lot of people. When I started working the program, I discovered a tool for uncovering, discovering, and eventually discarding these resentments. It’s called a fearless and thorough Fourth Step. When I started writing my inventory, I imagined I had one or two resentments at most, but soon found that I had hundreds. I almost needed a whole notebook just for my family! No wonder I was so spiteful. By working the rest of the Twelve Steps, I’ve been able to let go of these resentments, and something miraculous has happened: I’ve developed compassion for others and for myself. Freed from petty resentments and imagined wrongs, I now identify with the struggles we all share as we make our way through life. I’m not better nor worse than anyone else. Newfound compassion now allows me to be open with and thus deeply connected to others. Today, my honesty is based on true compassion. __________________ "No matter what you have done up to this moment, you get 24 brand-new hours to spend every single day." --Brian Tracy AA gives us an opportunity to recreate ourselves, with God's help, one day at a time. --Rufus K. When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on. --Franklin D. Roosevelt We stay sober and clean together - one day at a time! God says that each of us is worth loving.